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Dating: Going too fast and Sex too Soon

Going fast creates ‘False Intimacy’ which leads to getting into the wrong relationships.
Key behaviors leading to false intimacy:
• Sex too soon
• Spending the night
• Spending too much time
• Trust and time–over-disclosing

Key practices to slowing down:
• No sex for 10-12 dates
• Meeting for coffee instead of extended evening dates
• Little to no alcohol consumption
• Limiting contact (emails, phone, text or dates)

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Dating: Is this good chemistry or am I in fantasy

A lot of us feel this magical element when we’re dating somebody where you feel really connected to them and you don’t know why. It just feels really good. Things are going good and you get really excited. This elation is a very pleasant feeling for most of us. At some level, I do believe […]

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Being your fullest expression Part 1

Personal Freedom- “Being the fullest expression of ourselves”
Problem- Living a life unlived.
Major roadblocks to living a big life.
• Fear of being seen as egocentric, self-centered or selfish
• Playing small for others (fear of making others feel bad)
• Negative beliefs (childhood, family or difficult experiences)
• Fear of finding out if our negative beliefs are actually true
Is there room for more meaning in your life?

Relationship advice by, Sevin Philips, MFT

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Being your Fullest Expression -Part 2

Personal freedom:
Each one of us has a unique expression; we all can express ourselves in smaller ways and yet be just as beautiful.
Don’t believe me- find out for yourself, your own experience is your best teacher.
Suggestions:
• Explore how you stop yourself (ie. Negative stories)
• Give yourself permission to find out
• Be curious, you don’t have to know in order to explore
Process is organic- outcome may not be what you expected.
• Find supportive people
• Empty-handed leap into the unknown
• Being scared is a normal part of the process
• If you fall down, it isn’t failure

Relationship advice by Sevin Philips, MFT

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5 Tips for Reducing Holiday Stress

Many people talk about surviving the holidays. I suggest you can do more than just survive: you can recreate your holidays. I’m not encouraging you to tackle the 100 pound gorilla in your family’s living room, but simply to set a new intention for yourself and create the holiday you want in small and meaningful […]

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Basic Assertive Rights

1- The right to act in ways that promote your dignity and self-respect, as long as others’ rights are not violated in the process. You have the right to decide your values and lifestyles so long as you don’t violate the rights of others.

2- The right to be treated with respect. You have the right […]

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Respect is more Important than Love

Love is an amazing event that grows between two people. You can love someone and yet at times be disrespectful and unloving towards each other. This cycle is heart-wrenching and can erode love quicker than anything. The cycle begins with a person in the relationship feeling hurt, unloved or disrespected and leads to this person feeling justified in their poor behavior. .
Relationship Advice:
We all have the right to be treated with respect no matter what. We all have inherent value and worth.
1. Two people agree that it is unacceptable to be disrespectful.
2. Agree that time-outs are OK. (Walk away in a good way)
3. Wait twenty four hours to talk again about issues.
*Many people find that after 24 hours the original issue isn’t as important as remembered.

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Fear of Being Alone & It’s Impact on Relationships

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Fear of Being Alone & Its Impact on Relationships

When you fall in love, there are many powerful forces and many of them are incredibly beautiful. Love is one of the most amazing things that will ever happen in our lives for those of us that have the grace to experience it.

There are some elements that drive us to choose people, to stay in relationships, and sometimes even make poor choices in partners. One of them I find is the fear of being alone. It happens on many different levels; sometimes subtle, sometimes very powerful for people. But if you have a little bit of that inkling, that fear of being alone, it’s most likely affecting your decision especially when it comes to love. It’s really important to examine this area.
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Letting go of the Small Stuff in Relationships

Letting go of the Small Stuff in Relationships

Hello. My name is Sevin Philips and I’m here to talk about letting go of the small things in a relationship. That’s a hard thing to define because what one person feels is small, the other person feels is a pretty big issue.

I’m asking all of you to be pretty darn honest with yourselves. You might notice in most of my videos, it is a lot about examining what you want. What are your essential needs to be safe, to have trust, to have respect? Essential needs are important and I don’t want you to let those go. I want you to know what they are. I want you to communicate those in a good way to your partner and I want to know if you know how to figure out how to take care of yourself in those situations.

There’s a lot of stuff that I feel gets pulled into that category that may actually not belong there. Having you examine what those things are is all about you having a better life and having more ease in your life. One of the most underrated areas in a relationship I think is ease. We talk about passion, love, and all these things. Having ease in a long-term relationship is very valuable. I think a lot of times it’s achievable if we both work really hard at it.
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The Hidden Dangers of Gossip

How Gossip damages the foundation of trust, safety, connection and loving relationship. How to respond to gossip when others approach you with it.

By Sevin Philips MFT

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The Hidden Dangers of Gossip

Hello, my name is Sevin Phillips. I’m here to talk about gossip. It’s that age-old pastime. We’ve been doing it for centuries. Most of us would agree, it’s hurtful. If it happens to you, boy, it can really sting. Yet, we continue to do it. There are some hidden dangers in gossiping that I think you should know about.

It’s more than just that it’s hurtful to somebody else or that it’s hurtful to you. It erodes the fabric of what I think is most essential for us as human beings. We want to be in close relationships. We want to be connected. We want to be safe and we want to feel like we can trust one another. Gossip does not do any of these things.

At some level, I think two people feel like they’re bonding when they share this kind of negative information about somebody else. But deep down inside, we’re learning not to trust each other. Wouldn’t that other person do the same thing to you if the situation was reversed? I think we know that. It’s really keeping us further away.

When we speak in a mean-spirited way about somebody else, sometimes we have a lot of hurt feelings and we just don’t know what to do with them. So, we gossip.
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